“They’re not the be-all and end-all for you.”
This was the text I received from one of my close friends after telling him I was feeling super down after yet another rejection over these past few months. This rejection hit me harder than the others because 1) it was for a big media organization where the internship was the perfect fit for me and 2) it was my first official interview during my time of post-grad.
After receiving the email that they had selected another candidate, my mind went into beating myself down mode and I started questioning everything. Where did I go wrong during the interview? Did I not give enough personality? Why can’t I be more outspoken?
Before getting the email, I knew not to have any expectations so that I wouldn’t feel crushed if things didn’t go as planned. I would constantly say to others and myself ,“By God’s grace” because I knew ultimately everything was in God’s hands. But, when I didn’t receive that grace, I realized that in actuality I had put a lot of hope into getting this internship.
After knowing that it wasn’t in God’s plans for me, I felt stuck and confused. I even found myself thinking, “Well God if this wasn’t for me, why did I even get an interview?” For months I had kept my faith and this felt like I had been teased of finally getting a breakthrough and I was hurt.
Over the past few months of post-grad, left and right I was seeing people in my class securing jobs and taking the first real step in their careers. Seeing their posts always genuinely gave me inspiration and motivation, but I kept wondering when my own time would come. And, this recent rejection was a hard blow to the face of where my faith and patience was getting me.
I was so focused on everything that I was possibly doing wrong instead of remembering the hiring manager must have seen something special in me for me to have even gotten the interview. When things don’t go the way we plan, it’s scary how quickly there can be a shift of negativity filling our mental space. Just before receiving the email my spirits were filled with so much hope, but this one step-back in my journey was able to change that hope into deep sorrow and feeling helpless.
Our minds are so powerful and this shift can be our downfall if we allow it to be. Rejection can either be used as ammo for tearing ourselves down and forgetting our special gifts or it can be used as fuel to remember these special gifts that we possess and keep pushing forward.
I let myself be sad for a few days, but I took what my friend said even a step further. Delays in your journey aren’t the end all-be all for you.
Just because you didn’t get the job/internship that you were hoping for doesn’t mean that all of a sudden you’re no longer talented. And, sometimes the position we believe is perfect for us actually isn’t because it doesn’t push us out of our comfortability. We thrive at our best when we’re out of our comfort zone and it keeps our craft growing.
Through every fail and stumbling block, always keep in mind the ‘What?’ and the ‘Why?’ The ‘what’ is the passion that pushed you to pursue your endeavors to begin with and the ‘why’ is the purpose and intention behind it all. With these reminders, your hard work, patience and faith, your job offer email is coming soon.
Trust me, it’s coming.